What kind of diner are you?

[Bammer]

Proletariat move

[Chris_H_2]

all I know is I hate when the staff clears plates from the table when someone is still eating.

There are competing views on this within the industry. Is it worse to leave a messy plate on the table, or to make those unfinished diners feel like there’s a rush?

The problem move is to clear the plate and just acknowledge there’s no rush.

it's rude to the person still eating. it not only suggests that they want you the f out of there, but for the person eating it's awkward.

[tragabigzanda]

all I know is I hate when the staff clears plates from the table when someone is still eating.

There are competing views on this within the industry. Is it worse to leave a messy plate on the table, or to make those unfinished diners feel like there’s a rush?

The problem move is to clear the plate and just acknowledge there’s no rush.

it's rude to the person still eating. it not only suggests that they want you the f out of there, but for the person eating it's awkward.

yes this is a common reaction.

Back when I waited tables at a fancy spot, the house rule was an empty plate should leave the table after 3-5 minutes; and if a plate was not clear, but hadn't been touched for 3-5 minutes, we were to ask if they were still enjoying their meal (not "are you still working on that?" because that implied that eating the food was work).

If clearing a plate while others were still eating, I'd say something like "I'm just going to get this out of your way, of course there's no rush; we hope you'll stay as long as you like."

I agree that everything that happens before this point in the meal is vital for the exchange to feel natural and welcomed by the guests.

This is all Danny Meyer 101, btw.

[Bammer]

Sounds like a stressful job. How many different timers did you have going at once?

[doug rr]

my wife and i went to Le Bernardin..couldnt tell you to this day what we had..obviously seafood but no idea..the service was too over the top for me..refilling water after every 3 sips..asking if everything was ok if you got up to go the restroom..

[tragabigzanda]

from the ashes of tonkotsu

[Chris_H_2]

If clearing a plate while others were still eating, I'd say something like "I'm just going to get this out of your way, of course there's no rush; we hope you'll stay as long as you like."

the issue is not them taking the plates without announcing what they're doing, but rather them taking the plates to begin with.

my mother would've stabbed the back of your hand with her fork.

[tragabigzanda]

from the ashes of tonkotsu

[Chris_H_2]

If clearing a plate while others were still eating, I'd say something like "I'm just going to get this out of your way, of course there's no rush; we hope you'll stay as long as you like."

the issue is not them taking the plates without announcing what they're doing, but rather them taking the plates to begin with.

my mother would've stabbed the back of your hand with her fork.

oh she sounds like a lovely woman

she's super sweet, but every so often that 25% german side of her comes out

[macphisto]

If clearing a plate while others were still eating, I'd say something like "I'm just going to get this out of your way, of course there's no rush; we hope you'll stay as long as you like."

the issue is not them taking the plates without announcing what they're doing, but rather them taking the plates to begin with.

my mother would've stabbed the back of your hand with her fork.

oh she sounds like a lovely woman

she's super sweet, but every so often that 25% german side of her comes out

[tragabigzanda]

from the ashes of tonkotsu

[spike]

Welcomed back?

Same thing omg you are such a dork

Heys guys, a restaurant just invited me over for dinner.

You’re a moron.

[macphisto]

Sometimes restaurants email me special offers. It’s a dinner invite.

[macphisto]

I love a good coupon.

[Bammer]

Welcomed back?

Same thing omg you are such a dork

Heys guys, a restaurant just invited me over for dinner.

You’re a moron.

Ha

[macphisto]

I don’t know how spike comes back from this.

[spike]

Three years from now it must be real

[macphisto]

I don’t know how Bammer comes back from this.

[Bammer]

Let’s call Megan, she will decide once and for all.

[epilogue]

all I know is I hate when the staff clears plates from the table when someone is still eating.

There are competing views on this within the industry. Is it worse to leave a messy plate on the table, or to make those unfinished diners feel like there’s a rush?

The problem move is to clear the plate and just acknowledge there’s no rush.

My mom would say that's the exact wrong thing to do. In her warped mind, saying there's no rush implies that there is a rush. She sees it as super passive aggressive and unprofessional.

I hate dinning out with my mom.