Advice on how to finally grow up and be more responsible

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tree_ wrote:thanks for sharing, brother

oh man, I just ain't got the time or energy for "therapy" (textbook avoidant personality trait, apparently)

It's just something I have to struggle through every year and I hate it, but when I'm finished I feel better. I'll get it done well enough and the remaining tasks for the rest of the year are a breeze.

if I ever seriously drop the ball and shit hits the fan I'd probably seriously consider a diagnosis and therapy
I get it. Just in case you don't know, CBT is pretty different from other types of therapy like psychoanalysis. It's more about rewiring your brain and developing skills to get around some of the roadblocks you make for yourself. It has an endgame, which suits me better than the neverending "talking cure" approach
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dad wrote:
tree_ wrote:yeah i'm really not sure why i expected good advice from you people, now that i think about it
you people?

rude.
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teach your kids

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tree_ wrote:I have kind of an avoidant personality and I'm a procrastinator. Do you guys have a way of convincing yourself to do things you don't want to do? Do you psyche yourself up? Force your mind to frame things in a different way to make them more motivating?
Put it in your calendar
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Bammer wrote:
tree_ wrote:I have kind of an avoidant personality and I'm a procrastinator. Do you guys have a way of convincing yourself to do things you don't want to do? Do you psyche yourself up? Force your mind to frame things in a different way to make them more motivating?
Put it in your calendar
tree I used to be this way as well. Then a former boss of mine told me something he does in work and in life. When you wake up, or you get to work each day, do the thing you are least looking forward to during that time first. That is usually the thing you are always procrastinating. After you do it, it makes the rest of the time so much more easy and enjoyable. It has worked great for me.
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