Talk about your day thread

[Strat]

or fuck her sister

[Bammer]

Just be honest and ask her to be honest, too.

- Look, we’re both in our 40’s and don’t have time to waste.
- Do you want to go out again (and fuck soon), or not?
- Not interested in games.

[tree_]

that makes too much sense to work, bammer

when is the last time you dated? it's brutal out there i'm sure.. especially for people with such long legs

[Vitalogist]

This sounds like a lot of experiences my single friends have had. Modern dating seems frustrating because everyone thinks they have unlimited options so people change their minds quickly and without much warning.

[Coach]

Just be honest and ask her to be honest, too.

- Look, we’re both in our 40’s and don’t have time to waste.
- Do you want to go out again (and fuck soon), or not?
- Not interested in games.

This makes a lot of sense but it's still like high school or college all over again...mind games everywhere

[Peeps]

im not sure why you put the huh after her saying shes going to the movies with a friend. seems very natural and non chalant

[Coach]

This sounds like a lot of experiences my single friends have had. Modern dating seems frustrating because everyone thinks they have unlimited options so people change their minds quickly and without much warning.

Exactly, and I've been guilty of doing this. Once you are with one girl, you start to get curious about others. It's like online shopping. But I've stopped this behavior thankfully.

[Coach]

im not sure why you put the huh after her saying shes going to the movies with a friend. seems very natural and non chalant

Maybe I misread it but I thought we were set for Wed and I just needed to find a place...but yea she opened the door for next weekend so we will see.

[Coach]

or fuck her sister

I think she lives in Ohio. But yes if she's anything like this one, she'd be fun.

[Peeps]

im not sure why you put the huh after her saying shes going to the movies with a friend. seems very natural and non chalant

Maybe I misread it but I thought we were set for Wed and I just needed to find a place...but yea she opened the door for next weekend so we will see.

going by your timeline of events

Typical story...

Great first date, talked for two hours, shared nachos.

Big hug at the end. She says she wants to see me again (unprompted)

I text her a few hours later with a date idea for Wed - bowling - I tell her I'll confirm everything and reach out in the AM

I reach out in the AM with the Reservation details

she says she's not available on Wed, going to movie with friend (huh?)

She offers next weekend

I politely text back - Sure, no worries


So, basically, since I've been doing this for a few years I know to lay off and let her date a few other guys. Most likely it won't work out for her and she'll reach back out, as long as I play it cool.

it seems like you assumed she was free on wed and you told her you would go bowling. did she respond to this and say sure or did she reply back and say she had plans to be with one of her friends?

[Coach]

im not sure why you put the huh after her saying shes going to the movies with a friend. seems very natural and non chalant

Maybe I misread it but I thought we were set for Wed and I just needed to find a place...but yea she opened the door for next weekend so we will see.

going by your timeline of events

Typical story...

Great first date, talked for two hours, shared nachos.

Big hug at the end. She says she wants to see me again (unprompted)

I text her a few hours later with a date idea for Wed - bowling - I tell her I'll confirm everything and reach out in the AM

I reach out in the AM with the Reservation details

she says she's not available on Wed, going to movie with friend (huh?)

She offers next weekend

I politely text back - Sure, no worries


So, basically, since I've been doing this for a few years I know to lay off and let her date a few other guys. Most likely it won't work out for her and she'll reach back out, as long as I play it cool.

it seems like you assumed she was free on wed and you told her you would go bowling. did she respond to this and say sure or did she reply back and say she had plans to be with one of her friends?

I re-read everything. She said she was free on Wed because she doesn't have her kid that day. She didn't specifically say this upcoming Wed, so that was where I fumbled this. A recovery at this point is anyone's guess.

[tree_]

if she is the type that holds something like this against you, you shouldn't want her anyway

[Coach]

Here's the exact exchange from last night a few hours after the date:

Me: It was nice meeting you, if you don't have your kiddo on Wed and want to go out again, I'll set something up

Her: Nice meeting you too! Yeah definitely

[Coach]

if she is the type that holds something like this against you, you shouldn't want her anyway

she's only a month into online dating so she has 300 messages to sift through, I get it, but yea, not a good sign if she is turned off that easily.

[Coach]

The other girl I'm dating is spending the night tomorrow night, so all good.

The challenge with Boston is that the talent pool is very, very weak. An above average girl - say a 6 or 7 - gets the attention a 9 or 10 would due to the lack of inventory.

It's a very delicate situation. You can't overact and you just have to play it as cool as possible.

[doug rr]

what do you do if she beats you at bowling?

[Coach]

what do you do if she beats you at bowling?

I usually win but good point, that 5-foot-10 frame of hers could be powerful. She's a good two inches taller than me.

[tommy]

what do you do if she beats you at bowling?

I usually win but good point, that 5-foot-10 frame of hers could be powerful. She's a good two inches taller than me.

Are you going to get some Ron Desantis shoes?

[Coach]

what do you do if she beats you at bowling?

I usually win but good point, that 5-foot-10 frame of hers could be powerful. She's a good two inches taller than me.

Are you going to get some Ron Desantis shoes?

She said it was a non issue. She wouldn't date like 5-4 or anything like that.

[dad]

what do you do if she beats you at bowling?

I usually win but good point, that 5-foot-10 frame of hers could be powerful. She's a good two inches taller than me.

it's a game of inches.