Songs from parents to children are tough sells, precisely because they only ever seem to exist as these overly idealized, borderline objectifying odes. Other types of relationships -- even parent-child relationships, shown from the viewpoint of the child -- seem to artistically see much wider representation relative to differing levels of emotional complexity and nuance. The world is full of fawning love songs to significant others; it is also full of bitter breakup songs, songs of hurt, betrayal, confusion, and everything in between, and we understand that all of those feelings are plot points on a spectrum.stip wrote:This is where I am right now. Well, mostly. I only listened once on crappy phone speakers (no headphones) and there was nothing super exciting in what I heard that makes me desperate to redigest a twenty second clip. But I'm going to withhold judgement until I get the full song.Kevin Davis wrote:Yeah, this is their entry into the great pantheon of graduation photo montage songs, alongside “Forever Young” and “I Hope You Dance.” Songs like this are extremely easy while at the same time impossible to criticize — the father, the human, and the sentimental fool in me all hope that this song speaks life and truth into the hearts of Ed’s daughters, and if it does that then I won’t pretend that a fan’s views on artistic integrity should influence its right to exist. But personally I have no use for it, think some of the lyrics feel clunky and self-congratulatory, and am right there with whoever said that having kids of your own not only doesn’t endear me to this but might actually make it feel more patronizing. And man alive, does it ever sound bad.oneway23 wrote:Listening again, Peal Jam really targeting the quinceañera and bar mitzvah set with this one
Thus far Dark Matter was MUCH better for me than the initial clip (4 star song)
Running was probably not as good as the initial clip (3 or 3.5 depending on how it slots into the album. Fun for what it is but a definite ceiling)
I LIKE schmaltzy ed, for the most part. I think the Haves is a weak song and the low point on Earthlings (it's a shuffle skip but I can just let it wash past me on an album listen). But I love Future Days. I love Sirens. I love Last Kiss. I like Just Breath. I love Parachutes and The Fixer which are somewhere on this continuum.
Having said that, those songs all have either moments of darkness to juxtapose against their happiness, or speak to a history of struggle that justifies celebrating the peace and comfort of now. And it's not clear that this song will. And maybe it won't need it - it could coast by on melody, good will, charm, etc. But I don't think any of the reviewers have highlighted this as a standout.
On the other hand, many of the reviewers were pearl jam die hards, and I don't know that they/we are necessarily the target audience for a song like this. This seems either sentimental dads or, more likely, women who want to fantasize about being married to sentimental dads.
I'm sure the single choices were made long before early reviews, but it remains kind of surprising that none of the initial singles were flagged as highlights in the reviews we've gotten.
I love my kids fiercely, and relate to the desire to speak words of encouragement over their lives, and can totally appreciate that using a publicly released song to work through the various challenges in our relationship(s) would probably become a conversation topic with a therapist later on in life. I also know that those moments where you feel nothing but gushing affection for them are completely real. So I get why things are the way they are. But still, tough sell.
In some ways it's really beautiful that Eddie has had such devastatingly brutal things to say about his own parents in his music, yet is at a place of expressing the opposite of that when he speaks of his own children -- there's something transformative and fulfilling about that, and I'm glad that's the space he's in, as a husband/father if not as an artist.
