Oof, I just googled that term. It’s definitely seeming to lean this direction.spike wrote:Has she started referring to him as Baby Reindeer yet?pepperwhiteMFC wrote:The poor girl that wants to go out for dinner and drinks with one of our contractors asked me today why he didn’t seem like he wanted to join her (and her team), and whether she has to pay him for the day for that. All I could say was that it was probably the reason because he’s working for us to get paid, not go out for drinks in his free time. And then she says.. lol… omg I can’t help but love her a little for this…”but that almost makes him a prostitute.”
She showed me the photo he sent her of he and his wife. And zoomed in and out on the wife’s face with some comments. My reply was that since his wife runs their business - he probably needs to be paid for anything associated with our business, whether it’s actual labor or team dinners. He’s an independent contractor.
She is also actively seeking a budget for hire him herself, as I’m sure she feels I’m not helping much to ‘facilitate the opportunities’ for her.
I meet with her and her team to check in on things related to my product in their channel, and I hate this whole situation among others with her, but my reality is that I need to do my job and as sufferable as this all is, I’m trying to manage it as carefully as possible.
Interestingly, yesterday in our lunch meeting, I managed to give her a task that she took willingly (hard to do in the past), and asked her to volunteer for an event for our internal women’s group that I’m leading, and I encouraged her to advocate for herself in her career path, because she also feels stuck under a manager that she describes as “obstructing her career development.”
I’m not going to go to HR with any of this stuff because she admitted yesterday also that she’s already engaged with HR on her career development issues, but I am going to have a conversation with our contractor. I need to find another contractor to substitute in his place for the times she needs to schedule for her events.
What are your thoughts on how I’m handling this? I also won’t do these lunch meeting touch bases with her alone any longer, I’ve been including the other young lady on her team. Quasi witness. Keeping in mind ole girl would definitely throw me in front of a car, as my manager has expressed to me.