PJ songs about losing a loved one now with tallying device

[DeLima]

Which is the most accurate portrayal of experiencing the death of a loved one?

Long Road, Sad, Light Years, Come Back, Other Side, Man of the Hour, Release, Indifference...

This would actually be a pretty good encore set.

[B]

Why not Other Side and Long Road?

[DeLima]

Will edit header

[Strat]

For me it is Light Years.

[McParadigm]

none of those came close for me

[DeLima]

none of those came close for me

go on

[Strat]

none of those came close for me

go on

[Thejambi]

none of those came close for me

[DeLima]

none of those came close for me

go on

[Iholdthepain]

none of those came close for me

Agreed... Once you've gone through it, it's difficult to qualify with a song. Also, if you DO tie a song to the experience (like I did), you may never want to hear the song again.

[McParadigm]

none of those came close for me

go on

They just seemed a little too platitudinal, I guess. A lot of what's in those songs feels like the stuff you think a year after the fact, or like the little moments of sudden reflective sadness that strike you at odd times six months down the road. Some of them are totally detached from the experience, altogether (Sad). Or that was how it was for me.

There is a natural anger, and a very personal quality to the melancholy that accompanies great loss, and it's hard to capture in song. For me, there were a lot of moments in other songs that were about living rather than about death that felt suddenly very heartbreaking and yet impactful, in a grieving kind of way. They were more rumination-focused, or wistfully wishful in a very in-actionable way. As far as Pearl Jam songs, the verses of Present Tense or Wishlist might come closest to what that was.

[Norah]

man of the hour maybe?

[stip]

I edited the title, added your poll, and excluded indifference.

[stip]

I think man of the hour has come closest to my own personal experiences, but I've been fortunate to not lose anyone closer than a grandparent so far.

[Thejambi]

This thread is too ambiguous.

[DeLima]

I edited the title, added your poll, and excluded indifference.

I appreciate this work but am interested in your justification for excluding indifference. The lyrics "watch as she lies silent" clearly indicate thematic relevance at the least.

[DeLima]

none of those came close for me

go on

They just seemed a little too platitudinal, I guess. A lot of what's in those songs feels like the stuff you think a year after the fact, or like the little moments of sudden reflective sadness that strike you at odd times six months down the road. Some of them are totally detached from the experience, altogether (Sad). Or that was how it was for me.

There is a natural anger, and a very personal quality to the melancholy that accompanies great loss, and it's hard to capture in song. For me, there were a lot of moments in other songs that were about living rather than about death that felt suddenly very heartbreaking and yet impactful, in a grieving kind of way. They were more rumination-focused, or wistfully wishful in a very in-actionable way. As far as Pearl Jam songs, the verses of Present Tense or Wishlist might come closest to what that was.

interesting

[Thejambi]

The small instrumental of Immortality in Immagine is the closest for me. Maybe The End as a whole song.

99% of us is Failure By Matthew Good is the only song I legitimately connect with actual losses I've had.

[stip]

I edited the title, added your poll, and excluded indifference.

I appreciate this work but am interested in your justification for excluding indifference. The lyrics "watch as she lies silent" clearly indicate thematic relevance at the least.

i am working under the assumption that most of us do not experience death by waking up next to and/or sleeping with a corpse, and that if we do, do not immediately begin ruminating on our existential significance.

[DeLima]

I edited the title, added your poll, and excluded indifference.

I appreciate this work but am interested in your justification for excluding indifference. The lyrics "watch as she lies silent" clearly indicate thematic relevance at the least.

i am working under the assumption that most of us do not experience death by waking up next to and/or sleeping with a corpse, and that if we do, do not immediately begin ruminating on our existential significance.

I think you're being a little literal here, stip. And I actually thinking ruminating on our existential significance is a very natural response to the death of a loved one.

Please reinsert the aforementioned song.