stip wrote:Honestly, some of this is also about relationships, and many of us still have quite strong relationships with the music. Some of us are still happily married. Some of us feel like they've been cheating and want to be taken back, but the emotional connection you've established (at some point presumably on the strength of songwriting and performance) enhances the songs you like, and may make you turn against the ones you don't with greater vitriol (since it's not just a song you don't like. it's a betrayal).
This is a real thing. Your girlfriend will look more attractive to you than she probably 'objectively' is. I'm sure I think my daughter is more adorable than she objectively is. The objective standards don't matter. How you feel about the person obviously affects how you process who they are and what they do. But a lot of this is earned. Once you've made that commitment you never listen to songs in a vacuum. You hear them in the context of a career, and that adds all sorts of layers and dimensions to the experience that the simple writing can't account for.
I can't believe there aren't Elvis Costello songs you appreciate, even love, that would bore you if someone else wrote them. I'd say the same thing to McP about Tom Waits.
And sometimes it's just about giving something a real chance. I can have one listen of an album from some more or less unknown group (or even a known group I'm just not an especially big fan of) and if nothing grabs me, I'll probably never put it on again. If I'm being honest, I'm probably not even paying super close attention unless one of the early songs were good enough to get me realy invested.
But with a group I love, love enough to be on a message board devoted to them at 9:00 on a Thursday night? I'm going to give their new song a few spins. I'm going to listen to that new album multiple times to see what strikes me at different points.
Sure, if MYM wasn't Pearl Jam I might just listen to the iTunes clip and not even make it through the full 90 seconds. Or maybe it would suck me in. I don't know. I'm aware enough of my biases to know I can't honestly tell you how it would be, because the first time I heard any of the song I knew it was Pearl Jam. I was already invested at an entirely different level.