Red Mosquito

Alex wrote:

Anders wrote:Very sad reading about you guys having such limited contact with your families.

In my life it has been the opposite. Whoever has come into my life has left at some point, but never my family.

Yes, that’s the tragedy of it. And why it is so hard, and takes so long, to reach the “point of no return.”

Anders wrote:Most important of all is your kids. Keep on giving them a good life.

tree_ wrote:

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:What’s the deal with your work and her coming to your office? Unprompted drop in?

Yeah, that pissed me off alone. She works here too. When people come in, it's for business, and I say "what can I do for you?" and quickly do that thing for them. She comes in the other day with puppy dog eyes trying to pry into why I might be mad at her, because her friend recommended she did, because apparently they were talking about it, and insisting and insisting there must be something I'm mad about... All of this alone got under my skin immediately and I handled it the best I could, but I did probably come off like an asshole to her.

tree_ wrote:

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:

tree_ wrote:

Anders wrote:

tree_ wrote:

Anders wrote:Why do you think they are rude to your wife? That seems like a very serious issue. Difficult to move past.

for example, the way they say: "it must be hard to be married to her".. with all past context, we know what they are saying. We know them very well. They don't seem to appreciate how my life has actually vastly improved since I met her and started a family. They are jealous of her for taking me away from them and are reacting childishly.

I think most people have a partner, and anyone should expect you to get one, and for you to be «somewhat taken away from them». I don’t understand how they can be against her for that alone.

logic doesn't apply with them; they are driven by pain, confusion and disappointment. Some things she did or didn't do may have offended them in some way, but for unfair/unjust reasons.

Maybe it’s because she was arrested for assault?

that had nothing to do with them.. she's a lovely person who made one bad mistake... we have all, and particularly they, have made similar mistakes

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:

tree_ wrote:

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:What’s the deal with your work and her coming to your office? Unprompted drop in?

Yeah, that pissed me off alone. She works here too. When people come in, it's for business, and I say "what can I do for you?" and quickly do that thing for them. She comes in the other day with puppy dog eyes trying to pry into why I might be mad at her, because her friend recommended she did, because apparently they were talking about it, and insisting and insisting there must be something I'm mad about... All of this alone got under my skin immediately and I handled it the best I could, but I did probably come off like an asshole to her.

Layers.

tree_ wrote:

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:

tree_ wrote:

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:What’s the deal with your work and her coming to your office? Unprompted drop in?

Yeah, that pissed me off alone. She works here too. When people come in, it's for business, and I say "what can I do for you?" and quickly do that thing for them. She comes in the other day with puppy dog eyes trying to pry into why I might be mad at her, because her friend recommended she did, because apparently they were talking about it, and insisting and insisting there must be something I'm mad about... All of this alone got under my skin immediately and I handled it the best I could, but I did probably come off like an asshole to her.

Layers.

Yes and beneath those layers is the fact that a few days ago when I came into work a couple hours late, due to a dentist appointment, somebody in the hall mentioned my sister was looking for me. And she sensed it made me angry. In the past a couple times she has reported to my mom when I didn't show up for work. Which admittedly isn't fair to my mom when she is watching the kids, and I haven't done it since. But it's still a rat move, IMO. Not something a friend would do.

lennytheweedwhacker wrote:So why did you hire your sister?

BurtReynolds wrote:Maybe tree is just whipped