Red Mosquito

Ms Harmless wrote:giving the same advice to everyone doesn't work because everyone is not having the same experiences; that's in/equity 101

nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

Ms Harmless wrote:I do absolutely everything I can to curate my online experience to avoid as much hate as possible

Except for, you know, deleting Twitter. Wherever there is civilization, there will be hatred. Twitter is the worst of humanity, distilled. It's the playground of the miserable. Free yourself.

you're the best, epilogue, I'm just really having a bad time rn; thank you

Ms Harmless wrote:you're the best, epilogue, I'm just really having a bad time rn; thank you

I'm always here if you need anything.

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

epilogue wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:you're the best, epilogue, I'm just really having a bad time rn; thank you

I'm always here if you need anything.

I know, I appreciate you

Ms Harmless wrote:

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

Speaking from experience, this is a really important and valuable lesson for all of us.

Ello Sailor wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:I do absolutely everything I can to curate my online experience to avoid as much hate as possible

Except for, you know, deleting Twitter. Wherever there is civilization, there will be hatred. Twitter is the worst of humanity, distilled. It's the playground of the miserable. Free yourself.

I don't need you explaining my experience of hatred to me OR its solution

Ello, I'm simply asking you to consider why "if you don't want to experience violence, simply don't do A, B, C, D... W, X, Y, Z! simple, works for me!" doesn't work for somebody who isn't a non-disabled cis het white man

"Twitter is the worst of humanity, distilled"

and not just Twitter, when you are me

I go online to try to RELAX and WORK THROUGH the crap I have to experience on a daily basis OFFLINE, but there is truly no such thing as a safe space

Ms Harmless wrote:

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

yeah i guess that applies to everyone, but there is a chance he wasnt trying to hurt you. I think it matters if he was trying or not, there is a difference. And also his suggestion was interesting.

Anyway, i hope you feel better.

Ms Harmless wrote:

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

How have I hurt you? Wtf

More like adventures in hugboxing.

Ello Sailor wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

How have I hurt you? Wtf

How many times does she have to explain it? Jesus.

Yikes. No logic allowed in the war room, I guess.

VinylGuy wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:

VinylGuy wrote:nah you arent wrong, and i dont think Ello was trying to make you feel bad about it.

Sometimes we can forget that our experiences shape a lot of how we feel, and even a very light advice can feel personal to the other one.

I appreciate that but it doesn't matter what Ello was "trying" to do, he needs to learn that sometimes he just says dumb shit and when it's explained to him why it was dumb, he should sit down instead of continuing to mock the person he's already hurt

yeah i guess that applies to everyone, but there is a chance he wasnt trying to hurt you. I think it matters if he was trying or not, there is a difference. And also his suggestion was interesting.

Anyway, i hope you feel better.

I don't give a fuck that he wasn't TRYING

he DID

and when he grows the fuck up, maybe he'll learn he has the capacity to unintentionally harm

if all you've got is Devil's Advocacy, vinyl guy, please mind your own business; we are both adults and we don't need you to unpack the situation

Weird energy report, here we come.