Red Mosquito

The world is not easy for old people

Take away their keys and phones once they hit 70.

Funeral day. Good to see the family and learn more about its mental illness, drug abuse and domestic violence. Makes me feel normal in comparison.

BurtReynolds wrote:Funeral day. Good to see the family and learn about all its mental illness, drug abuse and domestic violence.

Condolences buddy

Jesus, I heard enough dark family secrets today to make me want to go home and throw up. Just horrific shit. My grandmother was a saint.

Apparently one of my great-grandmas was a prostitute who was horrifically abused as a child. She always thought that her mom would save her once she found out where she was, but she learned later that her mother knew where she was the whole time and abandoned her. I just remember her as a crazy old woman who lived in a trailer with piles of newspapers everywhere. Poor thing never had a chance. Some children show up on census records then vanish without a trace. Many are supposedly buried in a cotton field somewhere.

Story after story, generation after generation including up to the current one. Gruesome stuff.

spike wrote:Take away their keys and phones once they hit 70.

Mrs Wease’s grandmother is 91. It’s all she can do to get up and walk around without falling. Her balance is terrible, her reflexes are gone and her body is just old and weak. We all know it and talk about it. I suggested to Mrs Wease’s mom a couple of weeks ago that she needs to take grandmother’s keys before she kills someone or herself. She would have NONE of it. She replied that grandma was a totally different person when she’s behind the wheel and she’ll let her drive as long as she’s able. This is after we all watched her park her car in a giant hole that swallowed half the automobile. But she totally defends her. We just don’t get it.

BurtReynolds wrote:Jesus, I heard enough dark family secrets today to make me want to go home and throw up. Just horrific shit. My grandmother was a saint.

Apparently one of my great-grandmas was a prostitute who was horrifically abused as a child. She always thought that her mom would save her once she found out where she was, but she learned later that her mother knew where she was the whole time and abandoned her. I just remember her as a crazy old woman who lived in a trailer with piles of newspapers everywhere. Poor thing never had a chance. Some children show up on census records then vanish without a trace. Many are supposedly buried in a cotton field somewhere.

Story after story, generation after generation including up to the current one. Gruesome stuff.

Sorry to hear Burt. We’ve probabaly all got some kinda skeletons in our family closets. I remember finding out a few years ago that my great-grandma had the hots for my grandfather (her daughter’s husband) and apparently made some moves on him and she and my grandmother were estranged for years because of it.

wease wrote:

spike wrote:Take away their keys and phones once they hit 70.

Mrs Wease’s grandmother is 91. It’s all she can do to get up and walk around without falling. Her balance is terrible, her reflexes are gone and her body is just old and weak. We all know it and talk about it. I suggested to Mrs Wease’s mom a couple of weeks ago that she needs to take grandmother’s keys before she kills someone or herself. She would have NONE of it. She replied that grandma was a totally different person when she’s behind the wheel and she’ll let her drive as long as she’s able. This is after we all watched her park her car in a giant hole that swallowed half the automobile. But she totally defends her. We just don’t get it.

my grandma was the same in her 90s, but boy could she scoot when pushing a grocery cart around the market.

and my stepdad was fine driving deep into parkinson's because he was seated, even though he was falling all over the place at home. we took his keys because he kept losing them.

but yeah, 91 is too old to be behind the wheel. vision and reflexes alone.

My great uncle drove into a barbershop at age 80-something. Turns out he was diabetic and had basically no feeling below his knees.

One of my wife’s uncles had a stroke, dislocated his shoulder from the fall, and is in hospital. Not his first. Hearing about it is triggering all the in and out of hospital/rehab we went through with my stepdad. Just a reminder of what a shitshow getting old can be, for the individual and their family.

spike wrote:One of my wife’s uncles had a stroke, dislocated his shoulder from the fall, and is in hospital. Not his first. Hearing about it is triggering all the in and out of hospital/rehab we went through with my stepdad. Just a reminder of what a shitshow getting old can be, for the individual and their family.

true that..we're in the middle of getting the in-laws into a home this month..sucks more for my wife as she's the only child..movers and friends coming over to take stuff is a task that sucks...I am going to Best Buy to get my FIL a 65 inch tv for their new death home next week...this is not how I saw our retirement...

what brand

My mom died about 2.5 years ago, and my dad just called me from the veterinarian hospital. Her dog has cancer, and about a month to live.
He's been so neurotic about that dog ever since mom's death, this is going to be devastating.

B wrote:My mom died about 2.5 years ago, and my dad just called me from the veterinarian hospital. Her dog has cancer, and about a month to live.
He's been so neurotic about that dog ever since mom's death, this is going to be devastating.

That sucks. At least they'll be together again.

burt the german philosophy disciple believes in heaven

We're all just passing through nature into eternity.

yesterday was a long and stressful but successful day...after a couple years of stress we finally moved my in-laws into an assisted living place...

wease wrote:

spike wrote:Take away their keys and phones once they hit 70.

Mrs Wease’s grandmother is 91. It’s all she can do to get up and walk around without falling. Her balance is terrible, her reflexes are gone and her body is just old and weak. We all know it and talk about it. I suggested to Mrs Wease’s mom a couple of weeks ago that she needs to take grandmother’s keys before she kills someone or herself. She would have NONE of it. She replied that grandma was a totally different person when she’s behind the wheel and she’ll let her drive as long as she’s able. This is after we all watched her park her car in a giant hole that swallowed half the automobile. But she totally defends her. We just don’t get it.

“able”

My dad had a scare last week. 5 nights in the hospital, pretty much back to normal now. 84 years old. I feel like every time I see him nowadays could very well be the last time.

Now let’s go Mariners get to the fucking world series.

Bammer wrote:

wease wrote:

spike wrote:Take away their keys and phones once they hit 70.

Mrs Wease’s grandmother is 91. It’s all she can do to get up and walk around without falling. Her balance is terrible, her reflexes are gone and her body is just old and weak. We all know it and talk about it. I suggested to Mrs Wease’s mom a couple of weeks ago that she needs to take grandmother’s keys before she kills someone or herself. She would have NONE of it. She replied that grandma was a totally different person when she’s behind the wheel and she’ll let her drive as long as she’s able. This is after we all watched her park her car in a giant hole that swallowed half the automobile. But she totally defends her. We just don’t get it.

“able”

Yeah, we definitely have different definitions of that than Mrs Wease mom’s.