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Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Tue April 21, 2026 9:32 pm
by VinylGuy
wease wrote:spike wrote:Last weekend, my mom - who is undergoing treatment for lung cancer - decided to buy a pack of darts and smoke them. Can’t let that Chantix lapse yet, I guess.
The excuse I’ve heard in the past is “I already have cancer, how can they hurt me now?”
they really turn into teenagers right? mom´s driving license expired a year ago!! and she was still driving like nothing happened. Then one night a police took her car and i had to go running to show that at least she had paid the car´s insurance. After we came back to my place she said to me ¨bad luck¨.
Now my dad has his license expired and he has yet to take a fucking appointment. He is using his car anyway of course, its like they turned 70 and something in the water tells them to fuck the rules.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Tue April 21, 2026 10:01 pm
by LoathedVermin72
I do think the teen reversion phenomenon is interesting. My dad retired recently and has started getting back into reading, which he hasn't done consistently since he was a teenager, and he said he's not sure what to read because he feels like he's just going back to the same authors he knew back then. Heard similar sentiments expressed by a couple I was chatting with at a comedy show a while back, saying their son had just went off to a college and they don't know what to do with their newly child-free lives so they're just reverting to what they did before they had him. Gotta be a disorienting feeling when your life has revolved around something for so long and that thing has been such a pillar of your identity...and now that's been removed.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Tue April 21, 2026 11:00 pm
by spike
wease wrote:spike wrote:Last weekend, my mom - who is undergoing treatment for lung cancer - decided to buy a pack of darts and smoke them. Can’t let that Chantix lapse yet, I guess.
The excuse I’ve heard in the past is “I already have cancer, how can they hurt me now?”
She’s smarter than that. I guess her cough and stuffy head returned after day two of smoking, so she decided she doesn’t like it anymore. I think the being turned off by it part is a big step in quitting. She always enjoyed it thoroughly til the cancer diagnosis.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Tue April 21, 2026 11:05 pm
by spike
LoathedVermin72 wrote:I do think the teen reversion phenomenon is interesting. My dad retired recently and has started getting back into reading, which he hasn't done consistently since he was a teenager, and he said he's not sure what to read because he feels like he's just going back to the same authors he knew back then. Heard similar sentiments expressed by a couple I was chatting with at a comedy show a while back, saying their son had just went off to a college and they don't know what to do with their newly child-free lives so they're just reverting to what they did before they had him. Gotta be a disorienting feeling when your life has revolved around something for so long and that thing has been such a pillar of your identity...and now that's been removed.
I think part of it is the teenage and retireee demos being overlooked or second fiddle in society. A lot of teen behavior comes from being on the outside looking in on “adult life” and imagine it feels a bit the same when you become elderly and are sort of pushed off to live out your remaining days. It manifests in a defiant, duck their rules attitude for both groups.
Also a still developing brain and an aging one probably share a lot of the same aspects as far as impulse, etc.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Wed April 22, 2026 8:25 am
by contamination
I'm sorry for your loss Rangi.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Wed April 22, 2026 10:54 am
by Self
Sucks, Rangi. Sorry for your loss.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Wed April 22, 2026 7:39 pm
by Rangi Guy
Funeral was yesterday, and it went well. Was a good send off for dad.
Was so proud of my girls for the words they said and the way dad was honoured
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Wed April 22, 2026 7:55 pm
by VinylGuy
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Wed April 22, 2026 8:18 pm
by Ello Sailor
Rangi Guy wrote:Funeral was yesterday, and it went well. Was a good send off for dad.
Was so proud of my girls for the words they said and the way dad was honoured
Man, I am so sorry for your loss. Proud of you for being stronk like bull.
BOW TO YOUR SENSEI
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Sat May 02, 2026 4:22 am
by Jorge
I traveled with my mom's ashes to our hometown for a memorial ceremony. Very weird and sad day.

Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Sat May 02, 2026 4:33 am
by Ello Sailor
Beautiful lady.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Sun May 03, 2026 10:54 pm
by Rangi Guy
I feel your pain man - not an easy time at all. From how you've talked about her - she sounds like an amazing lady.
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Sun May 03, 2026 11:18 pm
by Self
dad is 80 today. love him to death, but his commitment to food and maintaining obesity is impressive. I'll probably die before him
Re: Parents getting old
Posted: Sun May 03, 2026 11:33 pm
by spike
Huggles Jorge.
I’m going to be a mess when my mom goes. I’m already struggling with being so far away now that she’s been diagnosed with cancer. She’s by no means at death’s door, but the reality is it shortens her life expectancy. Just bad timing by us moving away when we did, but such is life. I’m already thinking about getting back over there again this year, just to spend as much time with her as I can.