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Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Wed July 19, 2023 5:27 pm
by dad
Chris_H_2 wrote:
Bammer wrote:There are tryouts for select baseball next week.

The coach called me last night encouraging my kids to try out.

One of them is probably good enough to make the team, the other I don’t personally think so. They love it equally and it will be very awkward if one makes it and the other doesn’t. They are only 7 years old and this seems a little early for select sports in my opinion. A big part of me sees it as a money grab by these select sports organizations and ultimately you don’t necessarily have a team with the 12 best players but rather a combination of some of the best players and others who are the one that have parents willing to pay for it.

If the better one makes the team but the other doesn’t, he said he wouldn’t play. That very sweet of him but I don’t want him to lose out on anything he has earned for the sake of his brother. I’m also concerned about a blow to the other one’s confidence. This is tricky with twins. I think the coach probably views them as a package deal and would include both if he has room, or leave both off even if the better one is good enough.
you are headed down a very slippery slope here, so tread carefully. i can't tell you how many of my son's friends got into travel baseball on the ground floor and got so burned out by 8th grade that they wanted nothing to do with it come high school. it's sad really.

oh, and get used to the twins (you have twins, right?) doing things that exposes their relative strengths and weaknesses. my friend has twin freshman in the city where you either go to your crappy neighborhood high school or a select school that you have to test into. one kid got into his high school of choice, while the other did not. fun. it's reason no. 1 (among many) that we don't live in the city.
bammer, you could just embrace one of them being on the team and the other one is great at something else entirely unrelated to sports.

having twins doesn't have to be about having a level playing field. it's hard, but sometimes they're better off having separate lives.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Wed July 19, 2023 9:12 pm
by Bammer
dad wrote:
Chris_H_2 wrote:
Bammer wrote:There are tryouts for select baseball next week.

The coach called me last night encouraging my kids to try out.

One of them is probably good enough to make the team, the other I don’t personally think so. They love it equally and it will be very awkward if one makes it and the other doesn’t. They are only 7 years old and this seems a little early for select sports in my opinion. A big part of me sees it as a money grab by these select sports organizations and ultimately you don’t necessarily have a team with the 12 best players but rather a combination of some of the best players and others who are the one that have parents willing to pay for it.

If the better one makes the team but the other doesn’t, he said he wouldn’t play. That very sweet of him but I don’t want him to lose out on anything he has earned for the sake of his brother. I’m also concerned about a blow to the other one’s confidence. This is tricky with twins. I think the coach probably views them as a package deal and would include both if he has room, or leave both off even if the better one is good enough.
you are headed down a very slippery slope here, so tread carefully. i can't tell you how many of my son's friends got into travel baseball on the ground floor and got so burned out by 8th grade that they wanted nothing to do with it come high school. it's sad really.

oh, and get used to the twins (you have twins, right?) doing things that exposes their relative strengths and weaknesses. my friend has twin freshman in the city where you either go to your crappy neighborhood high school or a select school that you have to test into. one kid got into his high school of choice, while the other did not. fun. it's reason no. 1 (among many) that we don't live in the city.
bammer, you could just embrace one of them being on the team and the other one is great at something else entirely unrelated to sports.

having twins doesn't have to be about having a level playing field. it's hard, but sometimes they're better off having separate lives.
Yes of course … acting, skateboarding, whatever. Problem is right now he LOVES baseball just not as good at it.

Anyway I take Chris’s point about burnout to heart and I am leaning toward no even if they both make it, will say that we have other commitments such as travel and even their other sports (basketball, flag football). I also think age 7 is too young for this.

But I dunno man. I also want it to be their decision(s) and I will explain what they would be giving up (vacation, basketball) in exchange.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 3:35 am
by spike
if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 12:32 pm
by Higgs
spike wrote:if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.
Learning to Fly(ball)

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 12:40 pm
by Bammer
spike wrote:if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.
He’ll have to decide if he wants to fully commit to this (which means skipping birthday parties and all the rest) at age 7. I don’t think he’ll choose that even if he makes the team.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 12:44 pm
by Higgs
Bammer wrote:
spike wrote:if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.
He’ll have to decide if he wants to fully commit to this (which means skipping birthday parties and all the rest) at age 7. I don’t think he’ll choose that even if he makes the team.
Don't make it his decision. That's too much to give up (imo) for most 7 year olds.

Party on Wayne. Party on Garth.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 1:22 pm
by spike
Higgs wrote:
spike wrote:if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.
Learning to Fly(ball)
It’s Good To Be Dave Kingman

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 1:45 pm
by tree_
american league girl
end of the line drive

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 1:47 pm
by spike
free fallin classic

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 1:55 pm
by doug rr
spike wrote:
Higgs wrote:
spike wrote:if they or even one LOVE baseball, nut up and let them go for it. damn the torpedoes.
Learning to Fly(ball)
It’s Good To Be Dave Kingman
I enjoyed this one

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 11:16 pm
by Rangi Guy
Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 11:20 pm
by wease
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
Goodness! Feed those kids, Rangi!

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 11:21 pm
by Rangi Guy
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
Goodness! Feed those kids, Rangi!
They have bread!

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 11:24 pm
by wease
Rangi Guy wrote:
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
Goodness! Feed those kids, Rangi!
They have bread!
Oh. Well what are they complaining about then?

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Thu July 20, 2023 11:27 pm
by Rangi Guy
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
Goodness! Feed those kids, Rangi!
They have bread!
Oh. Well what are they complaining about then?
From memory the whole intervention ended with the girls calling me stinky and my 6 year old saying 'I'll smash you!'

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Fri July 21, 2023 1:16 am
by dad
Rangi Guy wrote:
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:
wease wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
Goodness! Feed those kids, Rangi!
They have bread!
Oh. Well what are they complaining about then?
From memory the whole intervention ended with the girls calling me stinky and my 6 year old saying 'I'll smash you!'
Sounds serious!

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Fri July 21, 2023 1:20 am
by Ello Sailor
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
You do have a sweet vinyl collection though. When they move out, the wax will remain.
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Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Fri July 21, 2023 1:33 am
by Rangi Guy
Ello Sailor wrote:
Rangi Guy wrote:Last night my daughters held an intervention with me to tell me that I buy too many vinyls and other toys - they want me to stop as apparently I could be buying them food instead
You do have a sweet vinyl collection though. When they move out, the wax will remain.
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My wife keeps telling me that if I do anything really bad, like cheat on her - the first thing getting burnt is the vinyl

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Fri July 21, 2023 7:25 pm
by Monkey_Driven
Heading back home after the longest stretch of time ever away from the kids. Simultaneously missing them like crazy but also dreading the return to being "on duty" 24/7.

Re: RMers with kids

Posted: Fri July 21, 2023 9:34 pm
by dad
Monkey_Driven wrote:Simultaneously missing them like crazy but also dreading the return to being "on duty" 24/7.
Oh, that feeling…woo boy.