Red Mosquito

I have absolutely zero doubt that Depp would have had more power and resources to leave that relationship than Heard did

i dont really know.

VinylGuy wrote:

tree_ wrote:He also "joked" in texts with his friends about wanting to choke and drown her to death and then "F" her corpse to be sure the "witch" is dead

Those are awful texts, but thats all they are.

wow OK

Anyone can point out at a gross text and say ¨this guy is awful¨
Im sure any of us has a distastful text not only from now but from 10 years ago.

They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

yeah, i agree

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

or maybe when you don't have agency.

dad wrote:

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

or maybe when you don't have agency.

They are both represented by William Morris

jorge's on fire today!

Jorge wrote:

dad wrote:

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

or maybe when you don't have agency.

They are both represented by William Morris

oh you...

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

no, that's a big factor but only one factor of many; a lot of people here reduce power to money or the lack of it, so does Ed Ved

VinylGuy wrote:Anyone can point out at a gross text and say ¨this guy is awful¨
Im sure any of us has a distastful text not only from now but from 10 years ago.

uuuuh not that kind of gross

I don't think "why didn't they just leave" is ever an appropriate question in an abuse situation

Ms Harmless wrote:

tree_ wrote:They both had sufficient power to leave the relationship. When you don't have money or resources is when you're really stuck.

no, that's a big factor but only one factor of many; a lot of people here reduce power to money or the lack of it, so does Ed Ved

that's all I was saying. of course there's more to it

Ms Harmless wrote:I don't think "why didn't they just leave" is ever an appropriate questionnaire in an abuse situation

it's definitely an old-school mentality.

Well, when you ask that question, the answers are what guide you to the reasons. So it's a good question if you don't know why.

dad wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:I don't think "why didn't they just leave" is ever an appropriate questionnaire in an abuse situation

it's definitely an old-school mentality.

lol I really just wrote "questionnaire"

tree_ wrote:Well, when you ask that question, the answers are what guide you to the reasons. So it's a good question if you don't know why.

i think asking someone in an abusive relationship why they don't leave is a bad idea. it's essentially shaming that person.

Ms Harmless wrote:

dad wrote:

Ms Harmless wrote:I don't think "why didn't they just leave" is ever an appropriate questionnaire in an abuse situation

it's definitely an old-school mentality.

lol I really just wrote "questionnaire"

i knew what you meant

tree_ wrote:Well, when you ask that question, the answers are what guide you to the reasons. So it's a good question if you don't know why.

I think abuse victims are quite beyond trying to convince people of why they couldn't leave; it's very far down the list of pertinent questions in this case, imo

it's also disingenuous to assume people are asking that question in good faith, just to "get to the bottom of the situation"; people asking it, the overwhelming majority of the time, are implying that one or both parties somehow made the choice to keep experiencing abuse, and that they would not have