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I have kind of an avoidant personality and I'm a procrastinator. Do you guys have a way of convincing yourself to do things you don't want to do? Do you psyche yourself up? Force your mind to frame things in a different way to make them more motivating?
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sorry, I procrastinate all the time.
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yeah i'm really not sure why i expected good advice from you people, now that i think about it
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I only run when I want to and I sleep like a dog
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tree_ wrote:yeah i'm really not sure why i expected good advice from you people, now that i think about it
you people?

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So I guess what I'm really asking is, when something absolutely has to get done, and you've procrastinated to the limit, what is that final motivating force that gets you going? Or do you just not do it and accept you'd be happier unemployed and homeless?
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tree_ wrote:So I guess what I'm really asking is, when something absolutely has to get done, and you've procrastinated to the limit, what is that final motivating force that gets you going?
A deadline really helps.

Maybe ask yourself if the task in question is actually important to you or if you're being manipulated by societal pressures.
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tommy wrote:
tree_ wrote:So I guess what I'm really asking is, when something absolutely has to get done, and you've procrastinated to the limit, what is that final motivating force that gets you going?
A deadline really helps.

Maybe ask yourself if the task in question is actually important to you or if you're being manipulated by societal pressures.
I have a strict deadline but I'm still finding it hard to get started. I definitely don't want to do it, but I don't want to lose my job either. How do I convince myself to want to do it?
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What's the task? Is it something you could maybe pay a person in India to do for 37 cents?
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tommy wrote:What's the task? Is it something you could maybe pay a person in India to do for 37 cents?
It is a yearly inventory project
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tragabigzanda wrote:
tree_ wrote:I have kind of an avoidant personality and I'm a procrastinator. Do you guys have a way of convincing yourself to do things you don't want to do? Do you psyche yourself up? Force your mind to frame things in a different way to make them more motivating?
If there’s something I don’t want to do, I’d rather have it behind me than in front of me, limiting my psyche and capacity for joy
very logical approach
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Sometimes I don't feel like posting, but then I make myself do it.
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Coach wrote:Sometimes I don't feel like posting, but then I make myself do it.
yes i know but the question is what is that thing that gets you to do it? the "make myself" part
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tree_ wrote:
Coach wrote:Sometimes I don't feel like posting, but then I make myself do it.
yes i know but the question is what is that thing that gets you to do it? the "make myself" part
it's just better to get stuff over with, I guess that's the mindset.
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Coach wrote:
tree_ wrote:
Coach wrote:Sometimes I don't feel like posting, but then I make myself do it.
yes i know but the question is what is that thing that gets you to do it? the "make myself" part
it's just better to get stuff over with, I guess that's the mindset.
my mom used to tell me that when i was a kid, but it didn't work then and still doesn't now
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tree_ wrote:
tommy wrote:
tree_ wrote:So I guess what I'm really asking is, when something absolutely has to get done, and you've procrastinated to the limit, what is that final motivating force that gets you going?
A deadline really helps.

Maybe ask yourself if the task in question is actually important to you or if you're being manipulated by societal pressures.
I have a strict deadline but I'm still finding it hard to get started. I definitely don't want to do it, but I don't want to lose my job either. How do I convince myself to want to do it?
You don't have to want to do it. Accept that and move on.
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Trag already gave you the best advice tree
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OK... I think I'm going to get started... in about 10 minutes
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Done yet?
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i will get started in 10 minutes.. for real this time
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